Tips on Coping With Stress

A child who won’t eat throws up even before she has had any breakfast.

The morning rush-hour traffic. Bad bus drivers on EDSA.

The seemingly endless cycle of house-helpers coming and going. Electric bills, credit card bills, and school bills. A spat with husband (not necessarily due to the bills).

Sick children. Bickering children. A child who just can’t seem to spell xylophone.

As a stay-at-home mom, I experience stress just as much as any working mom does everyday. Today’s page on the Simple Abundance devotional book (by Sarah Ban Breathnach) lists some effective ways of dealing with stress. Many of those listed jumped out and spoke to me. Whether you’re a SAHM, or doing a balancing act between career and family, I hope you find these tips helpful and practical. (Tips in bold are my favorites.)

  • Cultivate gratitude.
  • Carve out an hour a day for solitude.
  • Keep it simple.
  • Keep your house picked up.
  • Go to bed at 9 o’clock twice a week.
  • Breathe – deeply and often.
  • Move – walk, dance, run, find a sport you enjoy.
  • Eat only when hungry.
  • If it’s not delicious, don’t eat it.
  • Be instead of do.
  • Laugh more often.
  • Always opt for comfort.
  • Don’t answer the telephone during dinner.
  • Stop trying to please everybody.
  • Start pleasing yourself.
  • Stay away from negative people.
  • Don’t squander precious resources: time, creative energy, emotion.
  • Nurture friendships.
  • Don’t be afraid of your passions.
  • Surrender expectations.
  • Savor beauty.
  • For every “yes”, let there be a “no.”
  • Remember, happiness is a living emotion.
  • Exchange security for serenity.
  • Care for your soul.
  • Cherish your dreams.
  • Express love everyday.

18 thoughts on “Tips on Coping With Stress

  1. Hi Chats. Thanks for sharing these motivating and inspiring tips. I like those that you highlighted.

    Personally, I should work on, “For every ‘yes’, let there be a ‘no’.” When I master this, it would be easier for me to realize that I cannot please everyone. I agree, we should sometimes give ourselves a much deserved break by focusing a little on ourselves.

  2. Hi Noemi! Yes, practicing gratitude everyday makes a big difference in making us less stressed.

    Hi Rach and cookiekong! I like that too. We need to learn how to say no more often, don’t we? hehe

    Hi Belle! Twice a week lang naman, hehe. I personally would like to work on that. The reason why i lack sleep often is I work/play on the PC too much at night. By the time I sleep, my baby wakes up.. so there.. hay.

  3. Chats, wonderful post. I have a draft entitled Burn Out and I haven’t finished it yet. Hmmm, we may be on the same boat here.

    I see some things in your list that I need to do.

    Suggestion: why don’t you do this as a tag and tag us? Naku, binigyan pa kita ng stress ulit, 😀

  4. I love the last one. 🙂

    That’s why my husband and I always make it a point to say “I love you” after waking up and before going to bed. 🙂

  5. “Keep your house picked up.”
    Meaning lilinisin lagi? Sorry ha, medyo dense ako.

    Alam mo I do the “breathing” part every day. As in I consciously make an effort to stop & turn my back from my PC and just breathe. It helps.

  6. Hi Chats,

    I love “Happiness is a living emotion” – so true. I always remember this phrase when I’m not so into being happy and thankful.
    “If you want to be happy, be.”
    Naku, so true about eating non delicious food – baket ba.. feeling so guilty to throw food, no?? Remember the children of Africa keeps popping in my mind. Yan kasi yung teachings sa min palagi those days. Ay naku.
    Ingats and regards.

  7. I started a gratitude journal. It just helps when you realize the good things you have rather than the bad. I also agree to please yourself,laugh often and run.

  8. So you’re reading Simple Abundance too by Sarah whose last name is as hard to spell and remember as xylophone. I have that book too. There’s a companion volume … simple abundance journals.

    You’re such a positive person I think you can see your way through your stressful mothering chores. All best my precious friend.

    Hi anna! I’ve been trying to read the book for the past year. I guess in January I will have to start all over – I seem to have missed/messed most of the more important lessons… The journals volume I don’t have yet. Maybe I will chance upon a copy at National.
    And I’m sure too you can see your way trhough yuor stressful grandmothering chores 😀

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