A few nights ago, over dinner –
imom: Patchy, I heard something in school today.
iPatch (defensive look): hmm? What?
imom: That you have a big crush on this boy J, and it’s quite big news daw among the grade fives!
iPatch: Huh? Not true!
VGood (butts in): It’s true! She told me she has a crush on J… And so I told J! *hihihihi*
iPatch: Aha, ikaw nagsabi?? Eh hindi naman yung J na yun. There’s another J, yun ang crush ko. *twinkling eyes*
Technohub: Ay, Patch, you don’t go around telling boys you like them. Pag nalaman niya, manliligaw sa ‘yo, kasi alam niyang gusto mo siya.
imom: Basta, ayoko yung J na ‘yun. Ang astig-astig, parang bully pa…
iPatch: Eh, hindi nga yung J na ‘yun! It’s the other J…
Technohub: Patchy, hindi bawal mag boyfriend ha, basta sabihin mo sa akin…
imom (chokes on food, gives hub the killer look): what da… ???!!!
Technohub (continues): Kami ng mama mo ganyan din dati, kaya alam na namin yan. We want you to learn from our past mistakes, and sana you don’t commit them. But we will not be able to help you if you don’t tell us what’s going on with you.
imom: BUT, you’re still too young for boyfriends ha. Study ka muna please.
I almost had a heart attack there!!
But I’m glad I have a husband who is comfortable discussing topics like these. The first step is opening the communication lines. This cannot happen if our kids are afraid to talk to us. Though I was quite taken aback, I’m glad he brought up the topic. Hopefully, it sent iPatch the correct signal – that she can talk to her parents about anything, not that she has the permission to have a boyfriend! Patch is turning eleven in September. Sooner or later, we will have to deal with boy issues anyway. It’s good that we are starting early.
This isn’t our usual dinner talk.
I suppose it will take me a bit of getting used to.
On a lighter note, I have a feeling I am going to make a good monster mom-in-law. *evil grin*