Recently, Life gave me a sneak preview into how motherhood will be like in 2 (hopefully not that soon!) or 3 years when my eldest enters early teenhood.
My five-year old got lovesick!
It all began when my sister’s kids arrived to stay at home for a while. Immediately, VGood took a liking for15-year old Kuya M. She always wanted to be near him – she’d stay within eyeshot of Kuya when playing; during meals she preferred to sit beside him. She was always asking him questions, or just lingering around him.
But things started to go wrong when VGood decided to confide in her “trusted” peers – 3 (at least; there could be more) talkative female cousins (2 are Kuya M’s sisters aged 8 and 10; the third is 6-year old JGab who apparently had a crush on Kuya M too!). The culprits confidantes began telling on VGood. (How else do you think I found out?)
Soon after, word spread like wildfire and the teasing began. VGood pleaded:
“Please let’s keep this our secret?? Pretty, pretty please?”
Of course, all the talk reached the object of V’s affections. Worse, VGood found out that Kuya M knows! Oh, she must have felt so embarrassed! But I did not know it was affecting her so much that she did not want Kuya M to be around anymore. Here’s what she told ate J9, another cousin:
“I don’t like Kuya M anymore. I’m breaking up with him!”
Ate J9 was so amused, as we all did find VGood funny. In retrospect, it must have been torture for her secret blow up right in front of her crush! And then, to have to face that crush every single day must have been another torturing thought for her. I realized the situation was getting too stressful when she woke up one morning crying.
Me: What’s wrong?
V: (in between sobs) When are they leaving? Can you tell their dad [Ethan] to come and get them at the airport?
Me: But they can’t leave yet. Why do you want them to leave?
V: Because I’m shy at Kuya M. (sobs some more)
[“Shy” must have been the only term she can use to say she is embarrassed to be around Kuya M.]
That same day, my sister PetCat and her kids packed their things and “moved” to my other sister’s home. PetCat had to agree that the stress was getting too much for poor little V.
I remember feeling that way too. I was 6 years old – and in love with a boy-neighbor the same age as my sister DaVinci. For as long as he did not know, I enjoyed having him around, joining their games of soccer in the park or hide and seek in our forest. My cousin (The First Lady) and I would camp out in the park and spy on him. But as soon as I found out that he found me out, it was dreadful just to bump into him on the street!
It’s been days since Kuya M left, and my dear little V is doing just fine. The other night, we were looking at the reunion photos. VGood can’t help it:
“There’s Kuya M!”
“Where is Kuya in this picture?”
“There he is!”
Susme! What then have the teenage years got in store for iMoM? These are just birth pangs; the best is yet to come!
Years from now, when you’re already Big V, I know you will just laugh at the silliness of it all… and I hope you will forgive me for blogging about your first lovesick attack. 😛